Nearly Done

The pastor prepares himself for the question the widow will ask him once the funeral is over, the relatives go home, and the shock has worn off:    “Did my husband go to hell?”

I Have Always Been Free

I may not have known it, but I have always been free, both when I was a believer and now that I'm not. God never has controlled my thoughts and decisions.  The church culture tried to control me, but its only power is what I allowed it to have.   I’m free. I own my … Continue reading I Have Always Been Free

Performing a Wiccan Wedding: A Change in Perspective

Recently, I performed my first Wiccan Wedding ceremony for a lovely young couple and their baby.

Throwing Away the Script

"I'm ashamed of you," she said. But she didn't mean it. Her religious leaders taught her to say such things and it caused her pain.

I Counted In Church

Leaving the church was one of the hardest things I've ever done.  I have no qualms about letting go of God and religion.  But the people--I loved them and I still do.     I am aware of the flaws, dysfunction, and outright abuse that happened in many churches, and I understand that those who were … Continue reading I Counted In Church

I No Longer Reach for Heaven

I’m astounded that anyone could be persuaded to accept a way of life that guarantees their condemnation.  But I’m sorry to say we made converts.

Pangs of Envy

After forty years, I can say I'm free of envy of my fellow youth group member, even if he is still handsome at sixty--like a movie star who has decided to make his hair gray to acknowledge he’s aging but still sexy. 

I Hope I’m Wrong About This Prediction

I've always felt gratitude and respect for the service of the outgoing Presidents, even the ones for whom I didn't vote. Until this one. It’s the last twenty-four hours of his term, and I’m not breathing a sigh of relief just yet. In every church I ever served, there was a Trump personality who grasped … Continue reading I Hope I’m Wrong About This Prediction