I say that even with the best intentions, there’s a great deal of manipulation happening in church camps. Tell me I'm wrong... that these elements are not in church camps....
I later apologized for my anger but every week when I had to see that guy in church, I had to resist the urge to grab him by the lapels, pin him to the wall, and express my feelings.
Church can’t be a place for openness and healing when its basic premise is that people are awful sinners who caused the death of God’s child.
When I was a pastor I never practiced that “faith healing” crap. Yet even with my muted style, I could see people looking at me, waiting for a holy message to make them feel less desperate. It disturbed me to be given so much power.
In my last years of ministry, I quit preaching about forgiveness because it did more harm than good. When I did speak on the subject, I was aiming at the grudge-holding, petty sniping that went on where people used their resentment to keep others trapped in shame. However those people never heard me except to … Continue reading You Don’t Have to Forgive